Will or Way

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You've heard the saying Where there's a will, there's a way. But, really, there's only so much we can make happen – only so much we can shape with our own two hands. The rest? Depending on what you believe, it's managed by God, Buddha, The Stars, The Universe, Something Else or Nothing At All. No matter which, though, the point is the same: Most things are not up to us.

It's comfortable and comforting to think otherwise – to think we grip the reigns of life and can steer ourselves wherever we want to go. But, in many cases, my friends, control is an illusion – one that sits squarely as reality until the day life is thrown off course to somewhere beyond recognition, beyond comprehension. Which begs the question: When the problem is bigger than a matter of will, is there still a way to go? Is there still a path to follow, a reason to take a deep breath and change direction?

My opinion is yes. Though it may not be what you or I want, imagine or intend it to be, the fact of life is this: In even the most unyielding situations, there's always a way to find your way.

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A little weekend message.

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I'm convinced that there are infinite ways to give.

Listening tops the list.

Less Phone. Less Ego.

As my day planner shouts errands, meetings and reminders (and my phone beeps with much of the same) I can't help but sometimes get sucked into the illusion of importance that is modern life. Suddenly, I'm running around town lightning fast. Juggling groceries with a phone glued to the palm of my hand. Obsessively checking the screen every five minutes because I might've let something slip...or wasn't someone supposed to call me?

No wonder so many people find themselves knee-deep in quarter-life, midlife and three-quarter-life crises. (Zipping around still, but just in a flashier car.) ;) No wonder we're all so tired. We're hyper-engaged. Married to our phones. More alert than my home security system. Worried that something will fall between the cracks and cause everything we stand for to come crumbling down, like the Colosseum.  

Eda Polat

But is it business that's really keeping us so busy or busy-ness itself? Because we all have all the information we need all the time, we're all expected to get more done. But what about what's beyond the screen? What happened to philosophy? To soul-searching? To living? To loving? To neighbors? To communities? To less me and more we? 

Even with the above said, I admit: I love my smart phone. It still amazes me that I can pull directions, talk into my phone and it types!, find where I'm parked, reach someone across the world, grab my email, scan a coupon...it's entirely unreal and separate from the world I grew up in, where I punched in a long-distance calling card and stretched the curly-Q cord all the way to my closet for privacy. But, in all honesty, it might do me some good to be a little more inaccessible in general and to have information be a tad less mobile – and not just for the reasons you probably think, like all the (good) ones stated in the paragraph above. But for this: an ego check. 

The world does not need us to save it with a deft click or press of a send button. It will keep on spinning if we don't pick up the phone, can't respond to that email or happen to lose fifteen minutes by getting completely lost in a sea of streets. We. Are. Human. Super humans, yes. But not superhuman. Frustrations and mistakes are supposed to crop up. We're supposed to have questions. We're supposed to walk around with our heads up. To need help. To not know it all. It's life, and, perhaps, the universe's way of humbling us and putting us firmly in our place. Which is right here, in the middle of everything, with everyone else – interconnected.

A little weekend message.

Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.

 -Helen Keller