When little things become big.

via Pinterest Letting go of the little things is one of the hardest things for me to do. From this past weekend's message, it's also one of the most important. But I always find myself struggling with it when life is hard. When contentment isn't my first emotion. When there is not as much to look forward to.  Holding on to things is like watching vultures. Circling and circling, drawing out the time before diving down to pick things apart. Rationally, I think we all know, that, in these moments, we're making mountains out of molehills, mostly.  Turning the trivial over in the soil and letting it grow thorns. But dwelling on and cultivating little angers is also like poison. Poison that only sticks it to one person: the person doing the holding on. It leaves no room for love, for sunshine, for healing, or to spread arms wide open and embrace what's well and good.  Letting go is what needs to happen. And, chances are, there's something we all need to let go. That's the reason for today's post. For the story that's below. For us all to start thinking about what we could send off into the ether and be better for doing so. No more vultures, right? Author Unknown A story tells of a merchant in a small town who had identical twin sons. The boys worked for their father in the department store he owned and, when he died, they took over the store. Everything went well until the day a dollar bill disappeared. One of the brothers had left the bill on the cash register and walked outside with a customer. When he returned, the money was gone. He asked his brother, "Did you see that dollar bill on the cash register?" His brother replied that he had not. But the young man kept probing and questioning. He would not let it alone. "Dollar bills just don't get up and walk away! Surely you must have seen it!" There was subtle accusation in his voice. Tempers began to rise. Resentment set in. Before long, a deep and bitter chasm divided the young men. They refused to speak. They finally decided they could no longer work together and a dividing wall was built down the center of the store. For twenty years hostility and bitterness grew, spreading to their families and to the community. Then one day a man in an automobile licensed in another state stopped in front of the store. He walked in and asked the clerk, "How long have you been here?" The clerk replied that he'd been there all his life. The customer said, "I must share something with you. Twenty years ago I was "riding the rails" and came into this town in a boxcar. I hadn't eaten for three days. I came into this store from the back door and saw a dollar bill on the cash register. I put it in my pocket and walked out. All these years I haven't been able to forget that. I know it wasn't much money, but I had to come back and ask your forgiveness." The stranger was amazed to see tears well up in the eyes of this middle-aged man. "Would you please go next door and tell that same story to the man in the store?" he said. Then the man was even more amazed to see two middle-aged men, who looked very much alike, embracing each other and weeping together in the front of the store. After twenty years, the brokenness was mended. The wall of resentment that divided them came down. It is so often the little things that finally divide people: words spoken in haste; criticisms; accusations; resentments. And once divided, they may never come together again. The solution, of course, is to let it go. There is really nothing particularly profound about learning to let go of little resentments [there are ways, though: next post]. But for fulfilling and lasting relationships, letting them go is a must. Refuse to carry around bitterness and you may be surprised at how much energy you have left for building bonds with those you love.